Tatiana Thompson

Hi, I’m Tatiana and I’m a Life Coach. I’m also a strong, independent woman and I’ve spent much of my life trying to mold myself into something more acceptable.

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Just like you, I believed that I was too much: too big, too opinionated, too demanding, too sensitive, etc. This ultimately left me believing that the real me was unlovable.

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Just like you, I received societal programming that women need to be agreeable and keep themselves small (both physically and emotionally) to be desired.

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Just like you, I received the message that safety and security comes from getting a man.

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And, just like you, I learned that men wouldn’t like me as I am. Yikes!

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I tried to play the game and be what I was supposed to be, but doing this left me trapped in a toxic marriage without security or support.

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And all of this led to me feeling deep hurt, resentment, and helplessness. Which, in turn, led me to act out in moments when I couldn’t contain my resentment anymore.

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I didn’t like myself…so why would anyone else want me?

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I finally hit rock bottom towards the end of my marriage. My body gave out on me and I was forced to listen. I couldn’t go on living this way. Luckily, there was still a spark in me that knew I deserved safety, peace, and love.

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So I started the work of healing my life. I didn’t realize this until later, but what I was really doing was starting the work of re-scripting my core beliefs.

 

I left my marriage with an infant and a 3-year-old, lived below the poverty line for the first year, returned to work, returned to graduate school, got licensed as a therapist, built two businesses, became a property owner and landlord, and ultimately built a whole new life for myself and my children. 

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I'm so proud of what I accomplished! I realized I could create my own security and peace! 

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But I also realized that I still wasn't attracting the high-quality, caring man that I would want as a partner.

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And that was partly because I had taken on a highly driven and masculine energy in the process. I was acting from a place of scarcity, fear, and grind culture.

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I wasn't going to wait for things to come to me, I was going to make them happen!!!

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What I didn't realize is that there's a much more powerful space between those two extremes.

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It's a place of groundedness, high self-worth, goddess energy, and authenticity.

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In my efforts to create the life I wanted, I was actually repelling the things I wanted most:

Love, connection, care from others, and a loving partnership.

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My fear was creating defenses that pushed those things away. 

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I thought I was a being assertive, but I was actually being aggressive.

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I thought I was avoiding settling, but I was actually being dismissive.

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I thought I was holding healthy boundaries, but I was actually acting out of ego.

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I did all of this because I didn't trust men, and I didn't trust "the powers that be" to be kind to me. And yet, it was my core beliefs on these things that caused me to create the very reality I hated and feared. I still hid my big emotions, I earned love by being needed, and I continued attracting men with deep insecurities who couldn’t grow with me.

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I finally learned through my own journey, and later through my training as a therapist, that we actually create our own realities based on our core beliefs.

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Think about it this way, if I believe that men are dangerous or problematic, I'm going to convey my hostility, if not overtly, at least through my energy. They will sense my disdain and respond accordingly: by pulling away or becoming hostile themselves.

 

But if I don't carry these negative beliefs about men into every interaction, I'll be met with a very different energy because men won't be protecting themselves from my anger.

 

Now, I'm not saying that we don't use common sense or that we implicitly trust any person right away - trust is earned! - but I am saying that we can protect ourselves withOUT being hostile.

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Once I started to understand this, and shifted my subconscious beliefs, EVERYTHING CHANGED!

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I learned how to identify each blocking belief as it presented in my life, and then rescript it using some pretty fantastic psychological techniques.

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I also learned how to practice strategic vulnerability, which involves slowly showing myself to people as they earn that level of trust.

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Through the years, I’ve studied and practiced the best ways to do this. I’ve done the work of Louise Hay, Gabby Bernstein, Lacey Phillips with To Be Magnetic, IFS, ego-state and shadow exercises, and I’m trained in EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing).

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The most important thing about all of these approaches is that they create shifts in your subconscious mind, which is the background script that is running the show for each of us.

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Through professional training and my personal healing, I’ve mastered the art of identifying blocking core beliefs, rescripting the subconscious mind, and streamlining the healing process.

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Today I can honestly say that I love my life! I love and trust myself, and I attract amazing people and events on a daily basis. I also attract amazing, high-quality men who fully choose me!

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And the more I put down my defenses and expand into my authentic self, the better it gets!

 

I know you’re ready to shine and be fully loved for who you are too! And this work and this community can guide you every step of the way!

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Are you ready to get started?