Valentine's for one?
For those of us who have (at times) been romantically challenged, Valentine’s Day can be a bit triggering.
We can all succumb to the desire for romantic attention on this day.
It’s nearly impossible to ignore all the pressure to have a beloved who spoils us.
Worse yet, sometimes we create stories about being unworthy if we don’t have that person in our lives.
So what can we do if this is not our current reality?
Well, first let’s take a quick look at why this holiday feels so damn important.
In my opinion, it highlights our desire to be adored, cherished, spoiled, and – of course – loved. It also elicits our desire to give love to another person. A wise friend once told me that one of the best things about falling in love is having a vessel to pour all your love into at last.
But, just like any other goal in life, we have to find ways to meet these needs for ourselves before we’ll feel worthy of receiving them from others.
Beyond that, we need to enjoy life to its fullest just as we are.
So I invite you to capture the feelings of Valentine’s Day with or without a sweetheart.
How would that look for you? Well, that depends on what you personally crave from a day of romance.
Do you love indulgent foods? Travel? Making love? Cuddling? Feeling seen? Giving love to others?
These are all things you can do without a partner (in case you weren’t sure).
With that in mind, here are some ideas for celebrating Valentine’s Day regardless of your relationship status:
Do the thing you would want to do with a partner. Want to get dinner at a great restaurant? Go solo or invite a friend or loved one. Want chocolates? Buy some! Want to do a staycation. Book it!
Focus on creating an experience with people you share non-romantic love with. My parents always treated my sisters and I with a basket of goodies and a sweet card for Valentine’s Day. Do this for your kids or for your friends. You’ll get so much joy from showering them with your love. Or do any of the activities that you would typically want to do with a romantic partner like booking a staycation or going to a special restaurant.
Spoil yourself. Take a bath, eat good chocolate, indulge in sensual/sexual touch, watch a favorite movie, book a future vacation, whatever you desire. You deserve to be adored and spoiled so make sure it happens for yourself.
I hope this whole idea of meeting your own needs doesn’t feel like a trite solution. It really is one of the most powerful tools in manifestation because it puts you in a state of receiving and joy.
That’s the state that makes you a match for what you’re calling in.
And, in the meantime, you’re having a hell of a good time!
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