There's this new trend on social media that goes a little something like this:

5 Things I'd tell you about your dating habits if I wasn't afraid of hurting your feelings...

And I kind of love it...sooooooo....I'll go ahead and finish that thought (since you asked so nicely)

1. You're using the wrong metrics to filter out men: You think you need someone who makes six figures and stands 6 feet tall. But the truth is you're missing out on wonderful men who have the qualities you're seeking, not the stats you're tracking. What you're really looking for is someone who has drive and purpose, not necessarily 6 figures. You're also craving someone in their masculine who allows you to surrender to your feminine softness. A man doesn't need to be 6 feet tall to accomplish that.

2. You're wasting your own time dating people you know are wrong for you: The moment you ignore your intuition or red flags, you are the one who's letting you down. I realize that sometimes this can be hard to spot, but I also believe we know sooner than we're willing to admit, and we need to stop gaslighting ourselves out of what we know.

3. You are the common denominator: Okay, this one feels a bit brutal but there are some real gems of wisdom in acknowledging this. It was never okay for them to treat you that way, but it's time to identify your pattern so you can stop falling into the same cycle. Not sure what it is? That's what I'm here for - reply to this email and we can chat.

4. You're not ready to date if you feel lonely or can't be alone: I believe this is the single biggest issue we face in the dating world today - everyone is trying to avoid loneliness instead of learning how to be with themselves. This means we're using other people to fill the void, which is a form of extraction, not love. Look at it this way, do you want to be pursued by a man who's in the middle of a divorce simply because he can't bear the thought of being alone? Of course not! You recognize that he's only pursuing something to extract validation and relief from you, which will eventually lose its appeal.

5. You're not ready for something real if you're still sleeping with someone else: Read #4 again. It's time to get comfortable with being alone and learning how to soothe yourself, meet your core needs, and learn what you really want. Having some back-up booty is just another way of extracting what you need from someone else until you can find a more permanent solution.

So tell me, how did this make you feel? Hurt, angry, validated? I'm genuinely curious.

I want to give it to you real because the saddest thing I see every single day is people not taking action to create the life they want.

Is that you?

If so, what are you waiting for?