If nothing changes, nothing changes

I don't know about you, but I spent years trying to make my marriage work.

I tried everything - asking nicely for more consistency, being more loving, complaining, threatening, yelling, coercing him into therapy, taking a separation...

You name it, I tried it.

And eventually my body completely gave out on me.

Just two months after giving birth to my second child, a disc in my low back herniated suddenly and I was dropped to my knees - both literally and figuratively.

I experienced physical pain that I didn't know existed, and this is speaking as someone who gave birth to my second child at home.

To make matters worse, none of the medical professionals I saw could help me because they wouldn't order an MRI (yet another time a woman's pain was minimized 🙄).

Within that first week, I developed strep throat and had to carry my newborn and 3 year old as I shuffled hunched over into the doctor's office for testing and treatment.

The next week I developed the flu, and was coughing non-stop, only furthering the disc herniation in my back.

I have to admit, I had some dark nights during that time, wondering if I could keep going at that level of pain, no sleep, and no end in sight.

But this was my wake-up call.

My body was telling me I didn't have a choice anymore but to deal with this issue of being alone in my marriage.

And I had to finally deal with it differently. Because "if nothing changes, nothing changes".

And here was the epiphany...this whole time I'd been trying to change HIM instead of myself.

What?!!!!!! 🤯🤯🤯

Yep, it really was that simple.

I'd been trying to get him to be somebody different instead of becoming somebody different myself.

Which is to say, somebody who would never settle for that kind of treatment.

Now, I didn't fully grasp that at the time. But what I did then was completely different.

I started reading self-help books (btw, the works of Louise Hay are a great place to start).

And within 4 months I was such a vastly different person that I found a doctor who got me the treatment and surgery I needed, I initiated divorce, moved out, and was setting up my new home with my children.

No joke! That's how quickly it played out when I started tending to myself.

So, why am I telling you all of this?

Because I see this everyday in my practice with women who are dissatisfied in their relationships.

They're focused on getting their partner to change instead of becoming a person who would never allow that kind of treatment.

When you become that kind of person, better people become available to you.

So remember, if nothing changes, nothing changes.

If his behavior doesn't change...that's your answer.

Or if your approach doesn't change...that's your invitation.

I do this work because I want all people to have the lives they dream of, and I know you have access to it...but you will have to change.

Are you ready to make that change? I'd love to help you.

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Imagine where you could be 4 months from now 😊