The top 5 dating mistakes you're probably making
Do you ever wonder why some people are able to find lasting love through online dating apps, and others seem to be on a never-ending hamster wheel of bad dates?
I’ve asked myself that a lot…especially when I was on that hamster wheel myself!
So I did a lot of research and I uncovered some very important themes.
It turns out that most of us are accidentally making a very specific set of mistakes in online dating.
And fixing them can be the single-most important factor in finally finding your person!
I want you to know what these mistakes are so that you can start getting solutions.
So here they are! The top dating mistakes that you’re probably making:
You’re selling yourself wrong: Remember, online dating requires some marketing savvy. You have to sell yourself - your REAL self! If you’re advertising the wrong aspects of yourself – like your sexuality or a perfect/palatable version of yourself – you’re going to attract the wrong people. You're also going to miss the right people due to a lack of authenticity. If you don’t share who you really are, the man who's going to love the real you simply cannot find you!
You’re not clear about what you want (or you’re afraid to let it be known): To be successful in any goal you have to know what you really want. If you don’t have proper dating filters, you'll be overwhelmed and end up wasting your time with the wrong people. Furthermore, if you don’t make it clear to prospective dates what you want, you’ll attract people who won’t be a good fit. If you have certain hard limits, share them on your profile. Save everybody’s time and energy.
You’re picking people to date based on your trauma instead of your long-term relationship desires: You say you want a man who will be kind and consistent but you keep responding to messages from fuck boys. Sorry darling, the math isn’t mathing.
You’re responding incorrectly to red (and green) flags: You’re in the messaging phase, and he’s inconsistent. Red flag. Walk away. Nope, no excuses. Thank you, good day!
Inversely, you may find that a date’s slower pace makes you uneasy, when it may just be a sign of his healthy attachment style, or it may bring up your own anxious attachment wounding. Is his slower style a sign that he’s inconsistent or maybe is it a sign that he’s patient and tempered? Don’t throw him out before answering that question.
You’re moving to sex too quickly: I know, I know…when you really like somebody it’s hard to wait. But you need to give your brain more time to be functional for you. As soon as you introduce sex, your bonding hormones start kicking in and you become color blind to warning flags.
So, which of these mistakes have you accidentally made?
I know I’ve made all of these mistakes myself! The worst part is, I didn’t know I was making them, let alone how to fix them.
But fixing them made all the difference!
Stay tuned for more posts where I’ll start breaking down the solutions to each of these common mistakes.
Also stay tuned for my 30-day email challenge taking you step-by-step on how to fix these mistakes, and start having amazing, high-quality dates.
Remember, the love you want is within your reach. What are you doing today to get ready?
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